Matters of the heart.

Sometimes i do wonder why people fall in love.

Why would they love someone more than their family?

When they are giving the person a chance to hurt them.

Why do they love to be loved by someone when they often take they're family's love for
granted?

Why is it that people yearn for someone's love when they fail to see that there are people, like their parents, who loved them beyond any reasons?

When people fall in love.

How do they know that this person is the one?

How would they know?

And how to they tell?

By the 5 senses? By?

Do they really love the person?

How would they know if they really loved the person? How would they know if the person wouldn't hurt them one day?

How would they know this is what they are looking for when they may not necessary know what they are searching for?

Or do they simply love the feeling of being loved?

Do they simply want to venture out and experience it, so that they can hone their skills at finding their perfect mate.

Or is it because having someone is better than none?

Or do they just want to do it because they truly love the person? But if this is the case,
How sure can they be that this person is going to walk with them to the end?

How sure are they that this person is THE ONE?

Why are some people so bent on finding their partners?

Why is being single at old age being linked to negativity?

Is there a rule to be attached? Is it a must for people to set up their own families?

I wonder when such mentalities first arose.

Even in the bible, there is Adam and Eve.

Why must man be with woman and woman with man?

Why is it warped to see 2 men together or 2 women together?

Perhaps this is just society's way of maintaining balance in the male to female ratio.

Well, the primary purpose of all of us is to propagate. Isn't it?

Without propagation, there won't be life, and perhaps that's why society is so against behaviours with threaten this.

I do wonder why people like to be tied down with obligations which comes along when they fall in love and get attached.

And i do wonder how some people can fall in and out of love THAT easily, if they have placed their whole heart in.

How do they know that the new person is not being a substitute or filler to fill up the gaps?

How is it that they can step out of it that quickly and allow themselves to give others a chance to hurt them again remains something which i cannot comprehend.

And neither do i want to understand for fear that it is something which i wouldn't like to hear.

What is so bad about being single?

Why do people fear being single?

Single doesn't mean we don't have friends, we don't have family, we can't have children, we can't support ourselves, we can't enjoy live.

Most importantly, being single doesn't mean that we can't love and can't be loved.

There are so many kinds of love in this world. From loving our family, to loving our job, our pets, our friends.

The most important love is to love ourselves.

Why should we be so dejected and worried that we can't find the 'boy and girl" kinda love, when we have so many other kinds of love that we can give and receive?

Single isn't that scary.

Single just means you've not found the person yet. Period.

Why should we be so afraid of being single?

Perhaps it's the way we've been influenced by the society. Been to focused on the negative aspects that we have failed to look at the whole picture and the beautiful parts of it.

Perhaps this is propaganda, only that it is from the society.

But i must say this kinda propaganda is rather successful,

that it seeps in so deep, to be so implanted in almost everyone, that perhaps not many asks the question why.

I don't think that being single is something bad.

If we need to learn how to live with someone, how to love someone,

shouldn't we start by learning how to live with ourselves, how to accept ourselves and how to love ourselves first,

before we are eligible to do that to someone else?

Matters of the heart can be puzzling at times.

You may choose to ignore this and view it as a biased blog entry, but still, i'm not ashamed nor worried to be single.

In fact, i am enjoying myself.

In years to come, this view may change, but that will be for the years to come.

Nobody knows what will happen for sure.

Do you?



Heh.